Studio Friday: Fear
First of all, I am wearing my favorite necklace from the south of the Philippines. It is a handmade necklace in different colors and was a native inspired jewelry. It creates a beautiful sound everytime I walk or move. (I will try to take a picture of it later on.) Note: this is the new picture with the first one on the upper right was inserted.
I realized the numbers of fears I have--- have multiplied as I get older. I am not sure how many of them have I conquered but, if ever I was not able to do it by myself then someone have helped me. One of my best weapon in handling my fears is prayer. It makes me calm, it gives me peace and confidence. One of the many experiences I always encounter every now and then is being misunderstood and misjudged and the other way around. I have worked with people of different race and culture eversince I began working, and I learned a lot of things from making a lot of mistakes- especially by just opening my mouth and saying a word. Language and actions can become a barrier many times. For example in our country, so many people likes to say something like “ohh you have gain weight” but actually the one who’s saying it just wanted to say that it was good that she’s a bit healthier and not the negative meaning or just to insult the person. If you are thin or slim, people sometimes think that you are on a diet or you have not been eating or you are malnourished etc. that is why people try to avoid saying it.
As I get older, I have become more aware and accept the fact that I might encounter a judgmental or racist whatever you can call it any day wherever I am. It is a fear that makes me angry but I have learned to try to trace the root and move on from there. I thought, what if I am the one committing the same mistake without being aware of it? I have to be in control of my emotions and yet, no matter how I try, the sudden anger I feel, especially if the problem is bigger, takes place right away. Human frailty. Lots and lots of stories to tell ....well, fear have made me become more stronger in my faith and in understanding life.
Have a nice day all of you!
posted by isay at
1:53 AM
7 Comments:
I love to hear the customs of other countries. I think that is information that we all lack and some people don't even know (that there are other customs!)
PS - What a great picture!
oh so true...if only we lived a day
in the life of someone else.
A beautiful necklace. I had heard about a certain kind of necklace with bells in them that creates a light tinkeling noise. They had placed these bells within the necklace to remind the person to live in the present - not that past or the future. Perhaps this necklace can be your anti-fear necklace?
You're so right. It is a human struggle to keep emotions in check, to keep our hearts open after hurt and try to understand - "What lesson am I to learn from this?" instead of reacting to situations. Great thoughts. Thanks for sharing. Great picture and love the idea of your necklace.
Wow girl, great post such feelings you put into it! Culture and langauge can be a problem. The thought process isen't the same. I have incounterd this many time throughout my life! Have a good week!
your necklace is beautifully crafted. i like the choices there, too.
i fear losing my temper, and saying the wrong thing. i worry that as i get older, i'm worse at keeping my big mouth shut. lol
i still get the occasional racist remark. (i'm part indian [native american], and i live in montana, where we are regarded by many as second-class citizens.)
Oh I hear you, only too well, Isay! I have encountered some cultural obstacles while having worked here in retail in Canada.
I am still in the culture shock here even after 4 years of having been here. Sometimes it's not easy at all. I don't know how long you've been to danmark already. No idea how much time it takes til one feels most comfortable being a foreigner when things are feeling more like home. Homesickness for me comes and goes.
I am so happy that you have become stronger and are not letting your fears win and that you keep on fighting and are open minded. That is so great!!! And it doesn't matter how well you speak a language because that what's surrounding you is still foreign no matter what. And all it is is that things and people and places are not better or worse but only different. I am so happy that you see it like that, too.
xo
~t.
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